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Tuesday, January 12, 2016

Afraid of Forgetting

I AM AFRAID! I am afraid my dear Shahdi that a day will come when I won't think of you when I open my eyes in the morning. I am afraid a day will come when I am accustomed to your absence in your childhood house. I am afraid a night will come when I stop saying goodnight and asking for your forgiveness before succumbing to sleep. 


Simply, I am afraid of forgetting you or remembering you only on special occasions, not at every moment of my daily life. I am afraid of losing you for a second time by not keeping your memory alive, by not thinking about you as you deserve, by not trying to share my life with you through our cherished memories together. 

I hope such a day never arrives because it would be devastating for me. As your mother, I keep you with me in my heart and conscience everywhere I go, just like when you were a fetus safe and warm in my womb. I don't ever wish to forget you, even for a second. How can I?  How can one forget the joy of her life, the light of her eyes, the music to her ears, and the fragrant smell to her nostrils? 

​My only links to you are through the memories constantly floating in my head and the tangible objects you left around the house: art work, writings, floral arrangements, clothes, hair accessories, school notes, report cards, trophies, and of course, your chosen, Toby. However, I am afraid of the weakening strength of the former, the memories. I already am devastated to realize how I cannot recall everything from your childhood. I wish I had recorded every moment of your life and could watch them on demand now. I am so frustrated with myself for not being able to remember everything about the twenty years when you were an integral part of my life. I am afraid that as I age, my link to you will become weaker. This possibility frightens me. How can I ever forget you my darling Shahdi? Would my brain ever betray me like that?  I wholeheartedly hope my fears are baseless and you will continue to occupy my thoughts and actions for the rest of my life. As your mother, I pledge to dedicate my long term memory to you my dear child and to fight against time and old age ​who will relentlessly try to separate us in the coming years. I will love you and cherish your memory f​or as long as there is an ounce of air left in my lungs. 


Until we meet again my loving Shahdi.


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